How can counseling help me build relationships?
Whether you are looking for Marriage Counseling or you just want to figure out how to relate to others in a more effective way, relationships thrive on the skills that we develop in counseling. From the very beginning of our work together, you begin to communicate in an inherently non-judgmental environment. This opens up a world of external processing that you might never have experienced before. However, the work does not end there.
The most crucial relationships in our lives often last forever. When we take our vows, the explicit idea is that we are beginning one of those very lifetime relationships. I base my methodology for marriage counseling in the research and principles of the Gottman Institute, who lead the field in creating functional relationships and healing fractured ones. This gives us a framework for examining what strengths exist in the marriage that can be built upon as well as what areas can be refined. Because the family is the building block of our entire civilization, the work that we do in marriage counseling is nearly impossible to match in importance.
If, however, you are single and want to work on yourself before getting into a relationship, we can work together on areas you have identified that you want to take care of. This is a highly underrated method for establishing the groundwork for an enduring relationship. By going through the process of self-discovery and self-improvement, you will have a firm connection with yourself that enables you to connect that much more fully with your future partner.
If, on the other hand, you wish to foster is the internal relationship with yourself, we can begin there as well. In order to do this, I rely on IFS. For more information on that, I have a whole page. What we work toward, though, is the ability to look inward at each of your motivations and desires that affect the way you make decisions. Even if you are not the most impulsive of people, it bears examining what precise thought processes lead to your behavior. When you gain this deep insight, you become fully aware of how you interact with the world. This plays directly into how you build relationships with other people.
